We Survived

The other day was a tough one.

 

It was one of those days that felt like a complete disaster from the moment I woke up. There were toddler tantrums and leaky diapers and scheduling mistakes. There was a stroller with a flat tire and a flip-flop that broke the minute we got to the park. (And no, I didn’t have a pair of backup shoes on hand.)

 

No matter what I did, I could NOT get a grip on our day.

Even my 4 year old agreed. Around dinner, she looked at me and dramatically announced, “Mom, we are having a really hard day.”

 

I’m sure you know what she meant. As moms, we have days that seem too good to be true and normal days where everything works out pretty well. And then we have days that feel impossibly hard to get through - days where nothing goes right and we feel like no matter how hard we try, we’re doomed to fail.

 

I’ll admit that those days are hard. But I’m also starting to see how tough days are gifts because they provide huge opportunities for personal growth.

 

I discovered this gift last week minutes after my daughter declared we'd had a hard day. Normally, I’d agree with her. Then I’d indulge in a little self-pity and start blaming myself for all the things that went wrong that day. And you can bet I would have wasted even more time trying to find ways to prevent those things from ever happening again.

 

This time, I tried something different. Instead of agreeing with my daughter, I paused for a minute. I acknowledged that we’d had a hard day but instead chose to paint a different picture of how it all went down. I decided to think that we’d made it.

We had survived.

 

That small shift was everything. Instead of feeling sorry for myself and my girls, I felt pride. We’d handled the tough blows that day with as much grace as we could muster. We even laughed about them a little. (Watching a 4 year old try to walk in a broken flip-flop is admittedly pretty funny.) And above all, we got through it.

 

As a mom, you will have days that feel like a runaway train. There will be days when your baby refuses to nap or cries for hours for no obvious reason. There will be days when just getting out the door feels like a massive effort. And there will be days when you’re running 30 minutes late to everything no matter what you do.

 

It happens. That’s a fact.

 

What’s important to remember is that you get to decide how you feel on those tough days. You can think poor me and spiral into self-pity or you can think I did it and feel proud of yourself for surviving. You have the power because you get to choose. 

 

To believing your time is now,

 

Ashley

 

P.S. If you’re having trouble getting through your tough days, I’d love to talk about ways you can do just that on a free 30-minute coaching call.