What Do You Really, TRULY Want?

Yesterday, I was talking with a woman (we’ll call her Stephanie) who, like you, spends a lot of her time focused on the minutiae of her everyday life. And, to be fair, you could argue that she has to stay focused on the day to day to survive because she has a LOT of to dos to get through and a LOT of people relying on her too.
The only problem with all that doing is that it leaves little time for dreaming about what you want your life to look like in two or three or even five years. Because if you’re too focused on day to day life, you’ll miss the chance to think about your long term goals. And you certainly won't take the time to consider the actions you need to take NOW to get you where you want to go.
I’m interested in talking about where you want to go, and how to get there.
Whether you’re a mother whose creative business idea is buried under a mountain of household tasks or you’re a woman who wants to stop doing meaningless work and find a way to make a difference instead, it’s time to have a conversation about what your dream really looks like NOW.

Because here’s the thing: we don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what we want in the far off future. It feels too distant, and the present moment feels far too overwhelming for that. But if you don’t start planting the seeds for those dreams to grow now, you’ll never make progress toward achieving them.
I want to share three questions with you today that I ask my clients when we start talking about their long term goals. These questions will get you started thinking about your future and help you figure out your next steps.

1. What do I really truly want for myself?

2. Why do I want it?  

3. What is the first step I need to take to work toward that goal?

When you ask yourself what you really want, ask with an open mind. Answer from a place of possibility, not one of doubt or fear. We’re just dreaming here, not writing anything in stone.
Next, ask yourself why you want it. Take your time responding to this question. Really consider whether you want this for yourself or whether you want this because, at some point, someone else told you that you should want it. I want you to use this question to make sure the goal you have for your far off future is your goal, not one you’ve inherited from someone else.
Finally, answer the third question and use your new awareness to start taking action and creating some momentum toward your goals.
Now I know these questions aren't easy to answer but they are important if you want to bring your long term goals to life. So if you need help figuring out the answer to any of these questions, just email me at ashley@ashleymgartland.com and tell me where you're stuck.

Together, we’ll figure it out.

To believing your time is now,